Organization Equals Corruption

I understand now that my family is religious. I never really thought that when I was growing up. We went to church but it wasn't something that was demanded of us. When I was old enough to stay at home by myself, I decided for myself. Nothing was forced on me. My parents are members of the church that we attend now. They've been members since they were teenagers. I never knew that till last week. All the time they were away, they never became members of another church. When we moved here, we even went to other churches to check them out. But in the end, they were more comfortable at that church. It's kinda cool. We have alot of family there. I think we are kin to most of the people there but distant kin.
But I don't think I will ever be a member of that church or any church. There's alot of reasons that I could use but for the most part it's one thing: I will not become a member of any group that uses intimidation, harassment, and innuendo against people they don't know or even try to understand. And it may not be from the "church" it's self but from members, but that to me is still a problem of the church. I know that people gossip. I know that people try to force their beliefs on others. I know that people try to use force to get their way. But when it's in this setting (a church), it's more than "people", it's institutional. It becomes a lifestyle ( I'm good, Your evil). It becomes Mob Rule. I won't be part of that. I don't want to force my beliefs on anyone and I don't want anybody to try to force their beliefs on me.
I don't like the use of the term "Christian". To me it means good, kind, giving, and spiritual. But it's used by many as an excuse to be less than "Christian". Most of the time when I hear someone use that definition for themselves, I know they are not "Christians". I don't think any person should use their religious beliefs to define themselves. I think it's very un-Christian. Spirituality should be a personal thing. It should be a personal belief in a higher being, not a cookie-cutter model that someone made up to gain power over other people. But maybe that's just my own belief. I could be wrong.
I think there are many things that's good about going to church. I like the commonality of beliefs. It's important to be with like minded people. I also think it's important to have a spiritual center for worship. I like the charity work and community service that happens thru churches. But with that, I don't like the pressure that goes with "giving". I don't like the bragging that goes with it. I think giving should be something that isn't bragged about. It shouldn't be used by the "Church" to get others to give bigger donations. It should be a private thing not between a member and the church, but between a person and his Lord. I think there are too many people that miss that point but also I think there are too many people in this world that miss the point in just about everything in life. So what's new.
But I think that any group that puts forth how great they are, should be above being small minded and petty. They should live up to their values, not down to their fears. They should spend more time judging their own lives and less time trying to save someone that doesn't need saving. But with all of that, I still have faith in the goodness of "Christians", just not with the Church or any organized religion. Organization to me is just another word for corruption.